Gay Science of Relationships

So it has appeared to me that most gay men have a completely different view on relationships and love than our counterparts, the straights. Most gay men feel that relationships should entail having sex before committing to each other (the whole, test drive before you buy mentality), while others, very few, hold the traditional values of waiting and getting to know someone first. Granted, men in general are scientifically proven to be more sexual than woman, the thought can't seem to leave my mind, why is it that gay men have a problem withholding from sex before commitment but straight guys seem to be okay with it when women say no? Maybe it's just me, maybe I am only seeing one side of it, but I feel that regardless of what happens between a person, sex should be the last aspect to explore. Now, that gays have a right to marry, why not wait till the relationship part to have sex and during the initial meeting (dates) kick back and enjoy each other?

Another thing gay people have a problem with is the past. We all have a past and if that past shows up with your future love interest, dealing with your own past prior will help deal with someone else's past, especially if the past is defiantly in the past. However, never doubt your instincts, but don't misinterpret instincts going off for insecure thoughts being made. BIG difference. We as a gay community should bring the traditional values back to our love life and I guarantee it won't be any different than the straights but it will be a lot easier. If only this could happen, but as long as Adam4Adam, BGC, Manhunt and Men4Now are still alive and kicking, our community, much like the DOW, will continue to plummet downward. And we wonder why our community is filled with hatred, bigotry, attitudes and self righteousness. Its time to grow up and understand the gay science of relationships is self love and respect.

"If you don't love yourself, how the hell you gon love someone else? Can I get an amen?" ~RuPaul

Amen, Miss Paul, Amen!