Love Hurts When Lust Hunts

So many of us have this blind notion that all relationships in this world should be committed, honest and faithful. We also are told that with these things in place, we can not go wrong in the success of our relationships. But where are these people when our partner has cheated even after we instilled these said qualities into the equation? They tell us that there is someone ELSE out there for us. Well, look around. Still waiting? I thought so.

Now with every rule, there are exceptions. There are people who blossom in the fairytale ending and the fairytale ending sticks. But they are just that, exceptions. We shouldn't base our past on these other people's success when our failings have made us bitter. It only makes matters worse. I can't help but wonder, 'why do people cheat?' And, I do not have an answer, but merely an opinion.

Love hurts the most when lust is on the hunt again. When our 'committed' relationships have became stray jackets than a greenhouse. For this reason, most people don't even entertain the notion of 'open relationships' but they are truly alive and they do work. But as for our committed cousins, there are exceptions to this open relationship rule. I find it to be a more freeing and more loving thing to be with someone who cares for you and cherishes you without the tie down of expectations. Expectations is what invites disappointments in as soon as they are not met or are diverted from. I find that at this current moment, an open relationship is the answer to my insecurities for the reason that if at any given moment, I can back out without hurt feelings getting in the way.

But we all can't get caught up in what other people have. By all means, if a monogamous, faithful, committed partner is what works for you, keep aiming for it. You will get it in due time. But don't let your expectations cloud your judgments, feelings and emotions. Love in itself knows no borders, only foundation. Everything its in is possible for growth.